I got a piece of fan mail from a young woman at Goldsmith College in
London calling me her "idol." I'm not so comfortable with being anyone's
idol and I actually don't think it does us much good to worship outer
idols. Instead we need to give our energy to bringing our inner idols
Here's what I wrote:
Hi Charlotte-- Thank you so much for your note.
It's hard to take in such kind praise. I always imagine that people
have an image of me and that I don't really measure up to it. I always
think I don't do enough and that I spend too much time chasing after
things I want or my ambitions or what not. I guess that is my
struggle--to actually believe that I am enough.
But what does
give me hope is that when you or someone like you praises me highly and
calls me their "idol," it is because they recognize some part of
themselves in their image of me. Inside you, is some kind of hero that
perhaps you haven't fully owned.
We are all scared to let our
heroes out, don't you think? We don't trust that we can be as good or
great as the other people who we think of us as heroes. So we think "who
am I to act heroic?" It is our societal Icarus complex, coming to the
Of course, that's all the domain of ego and it is like
struggling with a ghost that has no substance. That is part of the
beauty and folly of humanity though, isn't it? That we struggle with
illusions. Recognizing that, we can have compassion for each other.
But my point here is this, the person to keep as your idol is not me
but you. What you think you see in me is actually in you. Cherish it.
Nurture it. Let it come out. Don't be scared.
idolize Ghandi and Tolstoy because of their emphasis on non-violence.
Tolstoy believed that the entire of Jesus's teaching could be summed up
in this simple phrase from the Sermon on the Mount: "resist not evil."
Ghandi, as much good as he did, was meant to have been a terrible
tyrant as a husband. He put his poor wife through hell in many ways. But
what I admire about him is that he let the hero in himself come out
even though it also caused light to be shined on those parts of himself
that were not heroic (he didn't resist his own evil).
Personally, that's what I dislike most about my role I've found myself
in since No Impact Man. That by being a public figure in this way, the
people near me also see all my faults and foibles and sometimes they get
hurt because of them. I find that kind of humiliating.
To be heroic, we kind of have to be willing to be humiliated.
My friend Julia Butterfly Hill says that extraordinary people are just
"extra ordinary." They are people who are willing to have their complete
humanity shine out. They are willing to let the bad parts come out and
be witnessed in order to let the good parts come out and be witnessed.
Resist not evil.
So in some ways, when we idolize someone, we
we are really doing is saying "Thanks for letting the good parts I see
in myself come out in yourself. Thanks for taking those risks."
And what I am saying to you is, never mind about idolizing other
people. Instead, idolize those parts in yourself. And idolize them in
the people you see around you. That will draw the hero out in all of us.
I appreciate your thanks so much. But it's hard to take. It's hard, I
think, because I'd like to be hero but the praise reminds me how much I
think I'm not. How far from it I really am.
I guess that is
being human, huh? That we are all complicated creatures. Here's to
hoping we will all be willing to let the complications out so that we
can together get to the work of building a better world.
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